BDSM is in the Brain

by Nov 28, 2016Miss Kendal's Blog0 comments

BDSM is in the Brain

by Nov 28, 2016Miss Kendal's Blog

I get asked all the time what turns me on, or if I really enjoy a certain thing in session. Of course, I have a list of words on my website that give an idea of the specific things I indulge in, but this is no more than just that – a list of words. It gives no real insight into the way my mind works.

I’ve decided, on that basis, to start this blog in the hopes that my meanderings prove to be more enlightening! In my experience, people want to play with people, not lists.
I can’t select a shopping list of things that turn me on; the things on my list are all activities that I enjoy taking part in (why else would they be on there?) but I do not necessarily get sexual gratification each time I indulge.

For me, I am turned on by someone’s mind. As my title suggests, it’s all about our largest sexual organ, the brain. That doesn’t mean I expect everyone I play with to be an honours graduate or a Mensa candidate! I’m not talking about academia or perfect grammar, I’m simply talking about a truly receptive mind.

It’s more difficult than ever these days to want to share your inner thoughts with others – there is so much hatred and discrimination that it often feels safer to join the condemning masses and pretend to be ‘normal’. Obviously, this stretches far further than the kink world but I won’t go off on a tangent!

I refuse, point blank. I’m not ‘normal’, you’re not ‘normal’, what the hell is ‘normal’?

The best thing about kink is meeting all the other people who rejoice in being abnormal. I get told about 10 times a week ‘I swear, I’m just a normal guy in real life Miss’. Sure you are, you just crave a cane across your bottom so hard it makes you cry!

There’s nothing normal about that, and why should there be? Who wants to slot themselves into that ever-decreasing gap which society deems to be reasonable human behavior? Not me. I avoid that gap at all costs! I’m the one who craves administering the caning after all!

In this world, nothing is sexier than someone who can really accept what they desire and seek it out, however bizarre. Of course, we all still have to get by day to day so we adopt a vanilla personality to lightly cover our darker sides. But once an atmosphere of trust has been developed and that cover can come off, that’s when I begin to have my fun!

One of my favourite sentences to hear is “I can’t believe I’m telling you this.”

That tells me everything I need to know – I have you. In that moment, I have access to thoughts you wouldn’t share with your best friend, spouse, family. That is my dominance at its purest level. Countless men have sat in my presence and revealed secrets they hadn’t expected to, without me having to raise much more than a smile. That’s power. That’s sexy.

The canes, the CBT, the bondage, the ‘insert item from list here’ – none of that matters without that initial mental power exchange. If you don’t grant me access to the most invaluable part of you, I don’t want to make use of your body either.

If you really want to turn me on, let me make a playground for myself inside your mind…